Showing posts with label loneliness. Show all posts
Showing posts with label loneliness. Show all posts

Age - depression, despair and loneliness Thursday, April 15, 2010


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For many older can be a time of loneliness and depression. And the term "golden years" is not likely to apply for them. The lack of planning, objectives and unsuccessful medical problems do not a happy life for the elderly. Whatever the reasons may be, old, lonely, anxious, and depressing time of life.

People rush through life, searching for their retirement and the good life. They believe that the first wonderful results for the blood and sweat for theirContributions to the roles of large commercial banks. Ah, yes, there will come a day when freedom, no schedules, deadlines, costs, family, and limited. Oh, there will be a happy moment! But, unfortunately, is a rich, carefree lifestyle, many older normally not recognized by most people.

Some older people find themselves without sufficient means to ensure a roof over their heads, while others recognize that the pension was too late before they reached purchases secularpaid and are unable to withdraw. But if they are engaged, have hope and the ability to have a certain similarity of a happy retirement.

But too often, older people may experience health problems, loneliness, grief over the death of a spouse, son or best friend, and forced into poverty. And 'unbearable for the elderly in serious financial difficulties occurring impossible to bad investments, lack of prevention of wrong choices in life or another.Maybe they "believed" they would never employability, healthy and vital to society.

Loneliness and depression can break the soul to pieces like a pane of glass shattered. Recognizing that it can not by themselves (financially) to make, no doubt cause anxiety, depression, physical illness and suicidal thoughts. Can add into the mix, loneliness, anxiety, fear, frustration, despair, and the results are in a state of deep depression through.

NaturallyWe all know or know that there is a possibility that we might see one of those old men who ride the motorized cart in a grocery store now. Or one of those elders who sport designer wear elaborate jewelry, and go all the beautiful places in the world-rays? But that does not need our attention today, which is far from many moons now, too far, even concern. As we know the way, there might be the last trip tomorrow?

Beforeunderstand what is happening, the children are grown and beginning their lives, their decisions. I am independent and self-sufficient. And, their visits are less frequent. Perhaps the holidays are the only time we see them or hear from them. But back in our little world, and suddenly, it seems, we exceeded standards by young people, our diminishes reflections seem a bit 'slower than usual, vision and hearing, and the person in the mirror is not familiar.

We notemood swings, and things that we had less happy. Despair, despondency and despair go hand in hand. It feeds on others, and seems trapped in a prison a place that seems hopeless, and stifles the joy of life. Add this mixture can be devastating to the lack of financial security, and impact.

The person who once energetic and productive, happy, smiling with friends, now is a sad, desperate and depressed. The lack of feelings of self-esteem orSelf-connections only to their destruction. The days are full of nothing. No laughter, smiles, friends and colleagues.

No school lunch packaging no need to keep their hands to cross the street to help bake cookies holiday faces not energized. Children should, moved, and there is no place in their lives cling to parents. The nest is empty, no need to tend the home fires. At worst, it seems no reason to say that life is good, or put a smile on the mask is sadShadow behind the eyes. What is involved? Where is the "gold" at your age?

Lined and wrinkled faces, sagging skin, and bowed postures confirm the end of the trip can wait around the corner or the next hour. But to be accepted for depressed people, death at times. You could not buy food, pay utilities buy, necessary medicines, or have no transport. Family members may live far away or are busy running through their lives;In both cases, the elderly alone, scared and just another old man. Believe that there is no escape, and so there will be none.

Some older people I suppose that could be compared to a bump in the road together, unnecessary and superfluous, and becoming more annoying than useful. The fast pace of the world from time to time, without a second glance. Adventure and interests seem to be a thing of the past. Your sexuality is but a distant memory. With trembling hands, and are fighting a broken heartto get through the days and lonely nights.

Dome elderly have no idea where the money to pay for another meal, sandwich or a cup of coffee will be. They have no place to live, no place where few have managed to keep it. And maybe have enough that nobody cares to offer them protection, food or support of any kind to your children busy in their lives may or may not understand, or understand the devastation and fear associated with the releaseold.

Loneliness and depression can be insurmountable obstacles, and can entertain for many trigger suicidal thoughts. For the elderly, sick or not successful, decisions, the "golden years" seems to be only a figment of his imagination made. Too late they realize the choices and decisions they made, or the paths they have traveled not be realigned, improved, or vice versa. It can be a dark state of depression, their only companion.

Pity that the old one for which you do not knowtheir stories or loads that have to endure. can sometimes improve a smile or a kind word for the day an elderly considerably. How much time and effort required of your day to smile and say "Hello?" How hard is it to see another life? The old men are not monsters.

Notice what you see, because they were previews of coming attractions that you may be struggling with in a not too distant future. Be careful be very careful about the decisions thatfor life, because what you may well be what you get.

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Tips for parents to help the elderly deal with the loneliness Saturday, March 20, 2010


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The statistics clearly indicate a trend towards an aging population and tackle the elderly and loneliness is a concern for many of us at some point in our adulthood. Perhaps a phone call from an anxious relatives or neighbors will force us to do with changes in the status of our parents and our responsibility to help them.

Working in these days, so many women, or to lead an active life away from home and the support is not offered to elderly neighbors, the operation ofCommissions and chatting, as it was before.

If your parents suffer from loneliness and because the loss of a loved one or away from friends, the first thing you do, talk to them about their needs. Its possible that they are worried, they fear losing their independence and are not sure what the future brings. Make sure where you can discuss what else to do to be able to help you.

You can also ask friends to call, but remember, simple, practical things like the installation of a telephonewith an amplifier. Maybe your parents is a friendship can start sitting in parcels or deliveries or babies from time to time for a young mother to work.

What is a pet? Animals can give an elderly person with fidelity, comradeship and love and care. We all know the value of something or someone depend on us feel needed. Particular attention should be given to the type of animal, depending on how much care and attention they need and the weeklyCosts. Charities such as Help-the-ages have a free booklet for pets to help you and your parents a choice.

If you have relatives or siblings ask for their support, exactly what they can to help, too. Discover what the community as hotlines, transportation, able to provide meals at home, and activities' of the center of the community. Take a kindergarten, class or club where they want to be able to help people who think or maybe for a few hours in a local charity shop. TheChurch Can social clubs or coffee morning run. The Church can give a chance for you, the parents, an important contribution to the community and there is no age limit here.

Usually there are local programs, with the young and old come together, school activities based on mathematics, history and reading, or working with children in hospitals.

Guarding the time together and remember that dealing with aging parents can be extremely rewarding for you as well,and perhaps one or two more visits from you every week you will be a more profound, you are and bring you both.

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